These are some of my favorite ways to help me implement kindness. Maybe they’ll help the next time you find yourself looking at self, others or situations in a harsh way!
1. Watch your labels.
Are you labeling yourself and actions in a negative way? Try looking a little deeper to see what’s really going on, and you might find some kinder – and more accurate — ways to describe your experience! For example:
Is your “procrastination” really just your inner guidance/timing telling you that now is not the time to do that thing you think you “should” be doing?
Is your “sadness” really just a need to slow down and/or is it a request from yourself for some comfort? (We’re allowed to do things that feel comforting without needing an excuse to be comforted or comfortable!) Or is your “sadness”possibly just a need for a nice nap? 🙂
Is your “tiredness” just your body’s way of saying it’s had enough of the particular activity or focus you’re engaged in? Is your system wanting to move on to something else? This is often true for me. Or a slightly different truth surfaces: I realize that I’ve mislabeled myself as “tired” when my body just has a simple need to reset and unplug from stimulation. That’s just part of the care and feeding of my particular being. How about you?
2. Look at it with other eyes.
Choose a person or entity that you absolutely know would view the situation more kindly and wisely. For example: How would your higher self look at it? How would an angel of compassion look at it? How would your best friend look at it? And what might she or he say to you? How would LOVE look at it? Try on different perspectives and see the situation with those loving eyes. You deserve the same love!
3. What’s the bigger picture, anyway?
It’s a good question to ask ourselves when we have fallen into judgment of self, others or situations. What’s really important? Often when I ask myself that question, it brings me right back to my center. I can see that the unkind thought I was caught up in is completely irrelevant when I look at it from the perspective of “what really matters to me?”
Be kind to yourself and take it easy! We can live in a kinder world. We just need to remember that we prefer that, and choose perspectives that support it! <3